Experts says that there are many different ways to fall in love.
You love being in love. You may be swept away by your new lover’s looks or other appealing physical attributes—and disappointed when they change over time. Remember that true love doesn’t recede with his hairline, and romance doesn’t have to fade as the relationship matures. Plan dates, weekend getaways, or just-the-two-of-you vacations to rekindle the spark that ignited your relationship.
You have criteria that are important, and you won’t change them. Even if you’re in a committed relationship, you may put too much pressure on your partner to live up to your standards. Let go of the list. Schwartz warns that clinging to those must-haves could mean a chafed relationship or a lonely life. Ultimately, the important things are companionship, love, a capacity for forgiveness.
You want to spend all your time with your partner. And you constantly worry about your relationship, even when you’ve been together for years. This kind of partner can be overbearing or have highs and lows that drive her significant other crazy. Don’t crowd your lover. Realize that too much of a good thing can be too much.
You may give more than you get. At some point, you find that it’s all going one way. You’re constantly working selflessly to meet your partner’s needs, but you’re not looking after you. t’s important to have a life outside of your marriage. Develop your own interests, cultivate your own friendships, and reserve time to do things you like to do—without your partner.
Love seems to creep up on you. One day you think, Wow, I’ve really been spending a lot of time with Jack, then realize you’re in love. In the long term, your relationship may be quiet, but it’s strong. Don’t let your thing get too platonic. “You need moments of romance.